For all i know...

What really is a relation?

Loving, caring, standing up for each other, supporting in times of despair? Considering as someone as your own, someone special, someone for whom you can serve your heart out on a platter and feed it to the gods…You wouldn`t let anything dreadful happen to him/her just because you share a relation? Would you?  

Then what the heck is the friendship? Where in hell did that come from? Is it any different? Isn`t it what you would do as mentioned earlier if he/she were just friends and not related? Is it not a relationship shared by 2 distinct bloods? Then why deliberately misunderstand the similarity between them? Treat them as different? 

For me, relations at a certain level have lost their meaning and they have abysmally forsaken me. They have lost their worth. I have ventured into my world; faced trickery and deceit in galore. Relatives u call them? Friends? Never! Lucky enough never to have been betrayed by a friend.  Until now. They don`t need to control my life; neither do they want to mould my emotions into something they would want for their own devious intentions.  They let ME be ME. I have my own space, my freedom, my opinions, my sky, my roof, my world…my life! The ‘my’ has no selfish allusion here, rather a larger than life attribute. ‘MY’ friends! I am a bit selfish in this matter though.

Friendship is the same as being related. It`s just a whole new angle of viewing things, changing perception. What are you to your father? A loving son? A caring daughter? Or just a generation down the ladder, loathing the age group above you for having a different mindset? We often bring out our own theories of differences .Just for our own convenience. Try being a friend to your father and you`ll know what differences. This goes the other way round too. For all I know, love is bound, friendship is not. You get an entirely unique perception of analyzing people and situations through this.

Experience it! Love in life has no greater significance if you don’t know how to express it. For a guy who likes to ride his own emotions alone, only a person who loves him unconditionally can be the angel of his locked heart. She`s like a friend first and then a person who has a greater access to his soul. It`s wonderful if the role played is the other way round, no problems there, but before you realize, the love though all faithful and warm can be smothering sometimes. Your mind plays tricks on you, urging you to break the shackles and run away as fast as you can from the same love which gave you sensitivity in your life. Believe me, it’s your ‘Ego’ and not your ‘Inner Voice ‘ telling you to do so. A relation is no more than captivity sans friendship. You just have to hang in there a little longer to give it a chance. A friend is all you need in the love of your life to grow old with, happily walking down the life-lane, knowing you have somebody by your side equally eager and happy.

At some point of your life, you`ll face a similar situation. It`ll time to ask yourself the same question…Are you a friend first...?